#yesallmen (stick with me here) #yesallmen is one of those hot button hashtags that immediately split people into one camp or another. I get that. If you wanted to roll…
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I was browsing around Facebook, the way you do, and this image of a quote by Lavern Cox scrolled into view. Here is a slightly bigger context and a link…
Read moreNeeds versus neediness, and how to get your needs met in your relationships.
Needs versus neediness, and how to get your needs met in your relationships. Last week I was hosting an event about the basics of open relationships. We were talking about…
Read moreWhat’s the secret to a good open relationship?
What’s the secret to a good open relationship? Have a good relationship. That’s a big one. When did we learn to have a good relationship? On TV? In movies? Pop…
Read moreThe Relationship smorgasbord
I found this on Reddit today (here on /r/polyamory) and it immediately struck a cord. It deconstructs what it means to be in “a relationship” in a way that I…
Read moreA privilege of monogamy
A privilege of monogamy First let me start with something I repeat often but shouldn’t go unsaid in an article like this. I’ve got nothing against monogamy. It is a…
Read moreThe Joys of Non-Escalating Relationships
The Joys of Non-escalating Relationships For those who haven’t heard the concept of the “relationship escalator” let me start there. It’s a term used to describe a hidden assumption about…
Read moreNeuroscience and better relationships.
It is built into our neurology, into the very function of our brain to do two things. We tell stories about the world with the available information we have, and…
Read moreNormal poly evening
We live in a world that teaches us that there is only one possible way to do relationships. On this point the world is wrong, but it is so fucking…
Read moreThanksgiving and secrecy and self censorship and open relationships. (CW: NSFW explicit sexual content)
I’ve got it pretty good for Thanksgiving. Instead of seeing bio family, I go to Big Sur every year and see chosen family. The friends who I met when we…
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